RYLC #4
Whose Life Are You Trying to Live? Realizing You Life Coach One of the strange things about becoming an adult is how easy it is to build a life without ever deliberately deciding what you want that life to be. We inherit ideas about success from our parents, schools, careers, friends and culture. We learn […]
RYLC #3
The Only Thing I Truly Own Is My Word Realizing You Life Coach There are very few things in life we completely control. We can work hard and still not get the promotion. We can apologize sincerely and still not be forgiven. We can try to help someone and watch them make a decision we […]
RYLC #2
You Don’t Need More Motivation. You Need a Process. Realizing You Life Coach Motivation gets a lot of credit for things it probably doesn’t deserve. We talk about getting motivated to exercise, motivated to change careers, motivated to save money, motivated to finish a project or motivated to finally deal with something we have been […]
RYLC #1
Why Most Accountability Partners Don’t Work Realizing You Life Coach The idea behind having an accountability partner seems simple enough. You decide there is something you want to accomplish, tell another person what you intend to do, and ask that person to hold you accountable. Knowing that someone will eventually ask about your progress is […]
Out Sick
Your highest performer called in sick again this Monday. But it’s not the flu. It’s what happened when one glass of wine turned into three last night. As HR leaders, we’re missing something huge here. We have a chance to support employees struggling with alcohol without the shame, judgment, or labels that usually come with […]
Under Control
“I’ve got this under control.” For 23 years, I kept telling myself that lie. As professionals, we’re problem solvers by nature. We troubleshoot, we manage crises, we fix what’s broken. So when drinking becomes the problem, we naturally think we can apply that same approach. We research the best strategies. We set timelines and goals. […]
Fathers Day
On this Father’s Day morning as I sit here drinking my coffee I think back to my drinking days as a young Father. I definitely wasn’t the best Dad in those days. I had other priorities still that seemed to take my focus. One of the things that kept me about as sober as I […]
Learning to Fly
People often debate whether addiction is a disease or simply a lack of willpower. But I know, without a doubt, that it’s a disease—because I lived it.
I’ve seen people pick up their first drink and never struggle with addiction. And I’ve watched others, myself included, spiral out of control, desperate to stop but utterly unable to. No amount of reasoning, pleading, or willpower could change that.
I tried to quit countless times, but it never stuck. When people asked if I was going to stop drinking, my standard response was always the same: “Someday, just not today.”
But then came the night that changed everything.